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Smart (and Sneaky) Ways to Get Your Ex Back

No matter how tough the odds may seem after getting dumped, there are no rules that say you can't get back with your ex. It always amazes me that the first piece of advice our friends offer after a breakup is “move on.” Really? This is the best solution our FRIENDS can come up with?

Before I show you how to get past all this negativity, let me introduce myself. My name is Elliot, and helping people with dating disasters has been my underground passion ever since my days in the fraternity house at college. I created this site years ago as a way to share my ideas and things just sort of grew from there.

So that’s me…now let’s talk about how you can get your ex back!

Important It All Starts with Attraction
During the whole process your focus needs to be on making your ex feel attracted to you, and attraction is not just about looks. It is the driving force that pulls your ex closer to you and makes them want to be with you. Attraction also has the power to make your ex forgive and forget everything about your break up.

Important Hide Those Tears
Never confuse SYMPATHY for ATTRACTION. Flowers, love poems, and tears of sorrow might win some sympathy from your ex, but that won't win back love. When your ex begins to feel sorry for you their level of respect goes down and you become less attractive to them.

Important Show Some Independence
People without opinions, or those who do everything to please others are BORING! Every good love story has conflict...ever heard that "opposites attract"? Don't be afraid to stand up, express yourself, and pick the other side. You won't attract your ex back by saying "yes" to everything.

Important Remember that Less is More
You've probably already heard this but it is so important - give your ex some space. Something is not clicking in your relationship right now, and it is going to take some time for your ex to get over it. If you want them to miss you, then you have to give enough space for this to happen. You can't miss someone who calls you three times a day! The goal is to use "limited contact" so that their infatuation about you grows.

Curious Texts for Your ExCuriosity Can Open the Door
So the most effective way to get your ex back is to make them want you again...and this is done by building up attraction. But to begin with, you need to create a buzz of curiosity and confusion surrounding your every move. One way to do this is with an email or text message that brings back a positive image of your relationship AND leaves them wondering what the heck is going on (I'll show you an example in a minute).

These first few messages are critical! If you can't get them to crack a smile or talk to you, then unfortunately these next steps are pointless. Once you have their attention, you want to keep them guessing on your next move. Just follow the old psychological rule that says "we always want what we cannot have". This means stimulating their mind but never actually giving them what they want.

Don't worry if this all sounds confusing. While it does require a good sense of creativity and strategy, there is an easy shortcut you can use. For now though, just think of it like fishing...use the right bait and you can easily pull your ex back into your life.

The Quick Start Method
Okay, the hardest part is going to be coming up with the right words and messages to send your ex. Again, texts or emails work well because they give you more time to get the message right before you send it. The GOOD ones will encourage them to reply back, and the BEST ones will make them question their decision to leave you.

Here are some simple examples...

"You were right about everything... it finally came to me last night. I guess I just needed a night out with the girls ;)"

Or this...

"I saw a girl running today, wearing the same pink shorts you have. You look great in those BTW! Hope you're having the best day."

Did you catch the visualization techniques used here?
References to the past, encouragement for the future...in short, everything suggests you are moving past the breakup. But what direction are you heading? That is your "hook", and you disguise it with the ultra-positive tone, and subtle flirting.

Now these are just some basic examples, but these types of messages will make your ex pause and think about you in a different way. Of course you need to follow up with more AND be smart about what you say when they respond.

The good news is, you don't have to brainstorm for hours about what kind of messages you should send your ex. Michael Fiore has an entire course on how to write and reply to messages like this, and he plugs them into a sneaky but effective plan to attract your ex back...

Read This: Text Your Ex Back (Version 2.0) by Michael Fiore

Fiore just released a revised and expanded package of his influential mind techniques. It is the perfect solution for anyone who is stuck on what to say and do to spark the romance back after a breakup. Why it works is simple...when you follow Michael's tutorials you'll steadily rebuild your ex's attraction to you. After you reach the passion point, they'll no longer care about the all the old problems in your relationship. Their entire focus will be on reconnecting with you!

Listen, it is not that odd for romantic feelings to fade over time. In fact it is the most common reason for a breakup. Michael's strategies help your ex remember why they fell in love with you, and this gets them to "forgive and forget" problems from the past. Click here to see his new cartoon presentation on how it all works!

Now if this sounds too aggressive for you, or if you aren't good with text messages, then you'll likely do better with a more traditional approach to getting your ex back...

Read This: The Magic of Making Up by TW Jackson
Even as one of the pioneers in online relationship coaching, Jackson's sound advice has remained popular for one simple reason – it works. TW walks you step-by-step through his collection of unique strategies to earn forgiveness and trust from your partner.

Inside you'll find solutions for every imaginable situation that can occur after a breakup, and TW makes it easy to customize a plan that fits your specific needs. Best of all, Jackson's provides a handful of different techniques, so you'll have several ways to approach your ex depending on how badly things ended.

Click here to read more about TW's action plan.


So Where's Elliot?
Some of you probably noticed that I no longer answer emails and post them on this site. This is because I simply don't have the time anymore with work and family obligations. Not to worry though as I've provided plenty of good places to turn if you need more help. Each one is trusted and risk-free. I never recommend anything unless it has a money back guarantee. There is too much going on your life now to be worrying about who to trust. You can also grab my mini-guide for more tips.

If you're coming back to read my articles, you can find the most popular ones below:

Why You Got Dumped  Solving Relationship Problems

The 10 Big Mistakes  What Your Ex Really Wants

Flirting with Your Ex  Tips for Calling an Ex

Steal Your Ex Back  Does Your Ex Still Love You?

Help a Dumped Friend  Get Your Ex Back After Years


Hey I know this break up is tearing you apart right now. Keep motivated by reminding yourself that thousands of couples get back together every day. You are not attempting the impossible here. Be confident, focus on the plan, and most importantly - take action!

To Your Success,

Elliot Beers

P.S. If you can click this link there is still time to get my original "Ex Factor" report for free!

P.P.S. If you know someone who needs help with their break up, FORWARD this website to their email address. You never know how much influence it may on their future!