The Simple Truth on How to Get Your Ex Back

Getting dumped is the worst part of falling in love, but letting the feelings of sadness and rejection take over is a no-win situation. This website is for people who know what true love is...and are willing to work to get it back.

This site is not for unmotivated people who sit and cry "why did this happen to me?" The best we can do for you is explain why you got dumped, what not to do next, and how to get your life back together. If your not ready for a challenge then you're in the wrong place.

If you know your ex is "the one" and you are willing to act rationally and take control of your future, then let's start with some simple truths about break ups...

Never forget that thousands of couples get back together every day!  Nothing is impossible when love is involved. But it is how you approach the situation that determines your fate. You can easily become your own worst enemy with desperate actions like drunk dialing or stalking your ex. Believe in yourself and be confident...don't let lose control.

Pushing too hard will only increase the tension between you and your ex. You need to practice patience, which is why it is best to let the dust settle after your breakup. Figure out what went wrong and then try to see things from your ex's point of view. What do they need from you to feel confident about your relationship again?

Somewhere along the way your ex decided to move on and YOU didn't stop them. Where did the passion of your relationship go? The secret of how to get your back is sometimes as simple as understanding why your relationship worked so well in the past. Why did the attraction fade into a break up? Figure it out because it is now up to you to attract your ex back.

Start to "think outside of the box"...and THIS IS WHERE MOST PEOPLE FAIL.  Don't use the same old lines, poems, and excuses that everyone else does. Putting up a half-hearted effort only confirms to your ex that you will never change. Don't revisit the bad times...show some promise of a brighter future. You need to GET CREATIVE and come up with words and actions to convince your ex that things will be different if they give you another chance.

To understand how to get your ex back you need to get inside their head and create feelings of curiosity, anticipation, and lust.

To put it simply...You Have to Make Them WANT You Again!

Of course it is not always easy play cupid when your heart feels like it has been trampled on. This is why it can really help to have some good advice that will lead you in the right direction. Sometimes even a few simple suggestions is all you need to get started. 

Everyone searching for advice on how to get your ex back has the same questions. They want to know where to begin, what to say, and exactly how to long to wait after the break up. The problem is that every case is different, so broad advice rarely works.

If you need more detailed advice on getting your ex back then be sure you ask the right person. Parents, friends, and co-workers are usually not the best source for love advice. Below we list a few books that might help. Notice that each one is written for a different age group and situation, so only choose one if it matches your life.

Winning Strategies for Getting Your Ex Back:

“Get Back Your Ex” by Brian Caniglia
Target Audience:  Long-Term Relationships
Target Age:  25 – 40 years old
Best For: Breakups in Established Relationships

Even as one of the pioneers in online relationship information, Brian’s sound advice has remained popular for one simple reason – it works.  The first edition of Get Back Your Ex was released in 2002, and the material has been expanded and updated several times over the past seven years.

Brian takes you step-by-step through a 30 Day Strategy that will help you rebuild a high level of attraction and trust with your lover.  His writing style is straightforward, and surprisingly in-depth (80 pages).  You will find several situational strategies that allow you to customize his teaching to meet your specific needs.  Combine this with his “Self-Consultation Questionnaire” and you get a resource that is fully adaptable to your own unique relationship issues. (Read More)

“The Magic of Making Up” by T.W. Jackson
Target Audience: Younger Couples
Target Age:  18 – 29 years old
Best for:  Sudden or Recurring Breakups

If you are looking for someone to lean on who understands exactly how you feel then M.O.M. is the perfect resource. Providing friendly compassion and creative ideas is what The Magic of Making Up is all about. Reading this book is like having a dinner conversation with a guy who understands how broken hearted folks feel. But as good as T.W. is with sympathy, he is even better at suggesting unique ways to get back into your ex's life.

What makes this book special is the way it helps you understand relationship chemistry. You will see why some relationships are destined to fail and learn the simple things that men and women need to from each other to stay in love. T.W. shows you how to use psychology, conversation, and body language to get your ex to open up to you (instead of ignoring you). It is a good fit for young couples who were once madly in love, but have since let tension, boredom, or a lack of trust create instability in their relationship.

T.W. Jackson is not a professional relationship counselor, but he understands people as well as anyone. His advice comes from years of helping others with all sorts of different problems.  He simply has a unique insight into relationships and why they work or fail. You'll get a taste of friendly wisdom by watching his introduction video. (Read More)

“Bring Back the Love of Your Life” by Cucan Pemo
Target Audience: Married Couples
Target Age:  35 – 50 years old
Best For: True Love That Has Faded Over Years

Cucan Pemo uses her contagious passion for life and love to help you breakdown the barriers that can destroy a relationship.  Cucan’s teachings revolve around a 4 Step Strategy to heal your broken heart and bring back the love of your life.

Before you consider purchasing Bring Back the Love of Your Life, you should know two things up front.  For starters, this is a very influential book that taps into the powers of positive thinking and spiritual balance.  Secondly, because of her somewhat idealistic approach to winning back love, Cucan’s lessons may not be right for everyone. 

This resource will teach you how to use the powers of love and spirituality to breakthrough the defensive behavior of your spouse.  It is a very effective strategy, but you should be confident in the powers of faith and perseverance before trying to apply it to your life. (Read More)

How Can These Guides to Get Your Ex Back Help You?

Some people are hesitant to pay money for these books. Either they don’t believe the advice will work, or they think they can find the same strategies for free somewhere else.  

Unfortunately, those are the same people who will end up wasting hours searching the internet for a “better way”. They might find a couple of short articles on relationships, or maybe even a handful of tips in one of the online forums, but without a complete plan to follow they will eventually give up when things don't go their way.

The books recommended here are complete guides that walk you through the process of winning your ex back. Not only will you save time by having all the information at your fingertips, but each of the authors are experienced relationship mentors.

The bottom line is that you can either learn from the experiences of others, or you can try to do it on your own and hope things work out.

No matter which choice you make, understand that you will probably have one chance to get it right. Create a plan that will “wow” your ex and be persistent until your reach your goal. A good place to start is by reading our First 3 Steps to Getting Your Ex Back