How to Get Your Ex Back: The Secrets for Success

No matter how tough the odds may seem after getting dumped, there are no rules in love that say you can't get your ex back. It always amazes me that the first piece of advice people offer to a friend after their breakup is “move on.” Really? This is the best solution our FRIENDS can come up with?

Before I show you how to move past this "negative mindset" let me introduce myself. My name is Elliot, and helping people with dating disasters has been my underground passion ever since my days in the fraternity house at college. I created this site years ago as a way to share my ideas and things just sort of grew from there.

So that’s me…now let’s talk about how you can get your ex back.

 Attraction
During the whole process your focus needs to be on making your ex feel attracted to you, and attraction is not just about looks. It is the driving force that pulls your ex closer to you and makes them want to be with you. Attraction also has the power to make your ex forgive and forget everything about your break up.

 Weakness
Never confuse SYMPATHY for ATTRACTION. Flowers, love poems, and tears of sorrow might win you some sympathy from your ex but they won't win back love. Once your ex begins to feel sorry it is much harder to rebuild a level of respect.

 Speak to the Heart
Love is a powerful emotion that is not always logical but it can "move mountains." Don't try to sell your ex on logical reasons for getting back together...this isn't a business proposal! To get their heart pounding again you need to entice them with excitement, passion, and the unexpected.

 Be Independent
People without opinions, or those who do everything to please others are BORING! Every good love story has conflict...ever heard that "opposites attract"? Don't be afraid to stand up, express yourself, and pick the other side. You won't attract your ex back by saying "yes" to everything.

 It's Not About You
Those who fail at getting their ex back usually focus way too much on themselves. Everything that comes out of their mouth has the word "me" in it. The bottom line is men and women need different things from a relationship. You must understand what your ex NEEDS and WANTS in order to attract them back. Most likely it is very different from your own needs.

 Less is More
You've probably already heard this but it is so important - give your ex some space. Something is not clicking in your relationship right now, and it is going to take some time for your ex to get over it. If you want them to miss you then you have to allow enough space for this to actually happen. You can't miss someone who tries to contact you three times a day! The goal is to have only "limited contact" and you'll read more about this in a minute.

 You are Not Alone!
Yes it is up to you to put in the effort, but that doesn't mean you have to go at it alone. I think one of the biggest keys to success is having a good support system to lean onto for help. In a perfect world your friends would be the best companions, but too often their own perception of your ex influences them. Since friends don't want to see you suffer their advice is a bit selfish. They just want you to "move on."

 Take Advantage of Shortcuts
The hardest part for some of you will be the "what, when and how" to use all the information here. You can save yourself time and frustration by simply following The Ex Recovery System. Ashley Kay knows everything about breakups, and her program covers all the little details for turning these strategies and mind-tricks into an action plan. You also get access to her private forum where you can ask questions and get feedback on any issues you face along the way.

Now if you are feeling good about the things I've discussed, but you still want help with the 'words and actions' then I recommend Text Your Ex Back by Michael Fiore. It is an excellent guide for those who are ready to reach out to their ex right now. Make sure you are ready to take action with Michael's text messages because the timing is critical. If you are still stuck on an emotional roller-coaster then I would suggest starting with Ashley's ERS guide.

So in short, those of you feeling lost even after reading this page will benefit from the detailed, step-by-step advice in The Ex Recovery System. On the other hand, if you understand my strategies but want more lessons on how to communicate with your ex then Text Your Ex Back is the answer.

Where's Elliot?
Some of you probably noticed that I no longer answer emails and post them on this site. This is because I simply don't have the time anymore with work and family obligations. Not to worry though as I've provided plenty of good places to turn if you need more help. Each one is trusted and risk-free. I never recommend anything unless it has a money back guarantee. There is too much going on your life now to be worrying about who to trust. You can also grab my mini-guide for more tips.

If you're coming back to read my articles, you can find the most popular ones below:

Why You Got Dumped   Solving Relationship Problems

The 10 Big Mistakes   What Your Ex Really Wants

Flirting with Your Ex   Tips for Calling an Ex

Steal Your Ex Back     Does Your Ex Still Love You?

Help a Dumped Friend   Get Your Ex Back After Years

Hey I know this break up is tearing you apart right now. Keep motivated by reminding yourself that thousands of couples get back together every day. You are not attempting the impossible here. Be confident, focus on the plan, and most importantly - take action!

To Your Success,

Elliot Beers

P.S. If you want more information on the resources I recommended you can read through my ex back book reviews.

P.P.S. If you know someone who needs help with their break up, FORWARD this website to their email address. You never know how much influence it may on their future!