5 Reasons You Got Dumped
Nothing hits your self-esteem quite as hard as getting
dumped. But surprisingly, most people say they don’t know
why they were dumped. While this may true, more often
than not the writing was on the wall, and if you failed to read
it, then you can expect to suffer through this scenario many
more times. To help prevent another ugly break up,
try to avoid the 5 most common reasons people dumped.
Note: You won’t find cheating on here. That one
should be obvious enough.
Negativity
We spend time with our
partner because they make us happy, even when everything else
is going wrong. In some cases however, the relationship
provides more negativity than the rest of our lives.
Constantly complaining about your work, money, and family is a
surefire why to drive your ex away. There is plenty of
negativity at our jobs and on the news; we don’t need any more
in our spare time.
Romance
…or lack there
of. So many relationships end because the
romance and passion dies. The initial stages of
dating are filled with flowers, love notes, and surprise
visits. As time goes on however, we start to take
things for granted and forget to share our feelings.
This can spiral into a deep disconnection, but it is also
an easy fix. Make sure you are doing the little
things to remind your lover how much they mean to you.
Listening
Everyone thinks
they are a good listener, and that is probably because they
have never had a conversation with themselves. Think
back to your conversations with your ex. Did you ask many
questions? Do you remember what he or she said?
Asking questions is an indicator of a good listener as it
shows a desire to become more involved with the
conversation. You can also try being quiet for a little
while, just to make sure your partner has had an opportunity to
speak. Remember that communication is the lifeblood of a
good relationship.
Smothering
There is indeed too much of a good thing, especially when it
prevents growth in a relationship. Did you give your ex
enough space? Did they have ample opportunities to go out
with their friends and co-workers alone? It is important
to have some “me time” when dating. It not only allows us
to keep a healthy social balance, but it also gives us an
opportunity to appreciate what we come home to. You can’t
miss someone if they are always around.
Quality Time
There is a big difference
between time spent together and quality time. If you
lived with your ex and the only time you saw each other was
right before you went to bed, then this is a good example of no
quality time. We devote so much time to outside
commitments like work and school that it can seem like we have
no time left to give. But you will only get out of a
relationship what you put into it. This might mean
sacrificing free time or rearranging busy schedules, but you
can’t expect your partner to wait for you forever. We all
need love and attention. If we don’t find it in one
relationship, then we will seek it out in another.
Everyone makes mistakes, but only those who learn from them
ever succeed in avoiding the same result. By
understanding why your ex left you, you can make sure your next
relationship doesn't face the same fate.
Why wait for the next relationship? There
are steps you can take today that will help you
win back your ex-lover. Find out what you need
to do to Get Your Ex Back
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