No matter how tough the odds may seem after getting dumped, there are no rules that say you can't get back with your ex. Why is it that our friends only advice after a breakup is to move on? Really? This is the best our FRIENDS can come up with? There is definitely a better way and I'll show you how here.
Before I show you how to repair your relationship, let me introduce myself. My name is Elliot, and helping people with dating disasters has been my underground passion ever since my days in college. I created this site years ago as a way to share my advice, and I'm very proud to say it has stood the test time.
So that’s ME… now let’s discuss how YOU can get your ex back!
Relationship experts agree that the most important step to winning back love is creating an effective plan of action and sticking with it. You must know what your ex needs from you, how to fulfill those needs, and most importantly… ‘what to say' and ‘when to say it' in order to make the best impression.
It all starts with ATTRACTION!
During the whole process your focus needs to be on making your ex feel attracted to you, and attraction is not just about looks. It is the driving force that pulls your ex closer to you and makes them want to be with you. Attraction also has the power to make your ex forgive and forget everything about your break up.
Keep your tears PRIVATE.
Never confuse SYMPATHY for ATTRACTION. Flowers, love poems, and tears of sorrow might win some sympathy from your ex, but that won't win back love. When your ex begins to feel sorry for you their level of respect goes down and you become less attractive to them.
Confidence and independence are SEXY!
People without opinions, or those who do everything to please others are BORING! Every good love story has conflict… ever heard that “opposites attract”? Don't be afraid to stand up, express yourself, and pick the other side. You won't attract your ex back by saying “yes” to everything.
Remember that less is MORE.
You've probably already heard this but it is so important – give your ex some space. Something is not clicking in your relationship right now, and it is going to take some time for your ex to get over it. If you want them to miss you, then you have to give enough space for this to happen. You can't miss someone who calls you three times a day! The goal is to use “limited contact” so that their infatuation about you grows.
Use curiosity to open the door.
So the most effective way to get your ex back is to make them want you again…and this is done by building up attraction. But to begin with, you need to create a buzz of curiosity and confusion surrounding your every move. One way to do this is with an email or text message that brings back a positive image of your relationship AND leaves them wondering what the heck is going on (I'll show you an example in a minute).
Your first contact is PIVOTAL to success.
If you can't get them to crack a smile or talk to you, then unfortunately these next steps are pointless. Once you have their attention, you want to keep them guessing on your next move. Just follow the old psychological rule that says “we always want what we cannot have.” This means keeping their attention but not giving them what they WANT.
Don't worry if this seems overwhelming. While it does require a good sense of creativity and strategy, there is an easy shortcut you can use. For now though, just think of it like fishing…use the right bait and you can easily pull your ex back into your life.
What will you SAY?
The hardest part of creating attraction is coming up with the right words and messages to send your ex. Again, texts and emails work well because they give you more time to get the message right before you send it. The GOOD ones will encourage them to reply back, and the BEST ones will make them question their decision to leave you.
References to the past, hints towards the future… you have to portray a life moving past the breakup. But what direction are you heading? This is your “hook” that you disguise with an ultra-positive tone and subtle flirting.
Crafting psychological tricks like this will make your ex pause and think about you in a different way. Of course you need to follow up with more, AND be smart about what you say when they respond.
An easy shortcut for success.
The good news is, you don't have to brainstorm for hours about what kind of messages you should send your ex. Brad Browning has an entire course on using these strategies. He literally spoon-feeds you hundreds of real-world examples on how to apply these psychological techniques. Brad’s chapter on text messages, for example, provides dozens of text messages you can send to your ex that are guaranteed to get a response.
Learn Brad's techniques to re-wire your ex’s feelings
So where is Elliot?
Some of you probably noticed that I no longer answer emails or post regularly on this site. This is because I simply don't have the time anymore with work and family obligations. Not to worry though as I know Brad Browning can answer your questions. His course gives you a winning strategy with a no-risk guarantee. I never recommend anything unless it has a money back guarantee. There is too much going on your life now to be worrying about who to trust. You can also grab my mini-guide for more tips.
Hey I know this break up is tearing you apart right now. Keep motivated by reminding yourself that thousands of couples get back together every day. You are not attempting the impossible here. Be confident, focus on the plan, and most importantly – take action!
To Your Success,
Elliot Beers
P.S. If this link still works you can still get my original “Ex Factor” report for free!
P.P.S. If you know someone who needs help with their break up, FORWARD this website to their email address. You never know how much influence it may on their future!