Losing your ex to a breakup usually leads to feelings of hopelessness and depression. And even though it is hard to see through the blur of these emotions, you must know that breakups do not have to last forever. Millions of people across all types of backgrounds and cultures have overcome their breakups and actually improved their relationships by working out their problems. The secret is getting good advice and paying attention to your ex's needs.
Understand what good advice is.
Good advice depends both on the source and the listener. Some people need a gentle approach and others need a more blunt method. The best guidance is the type you will be receptive to and take action on. Chances are if it makes you smile or nod your head then you are on the right track. When you agree with other's recommendations you are much more likely to follow through and get results.
The truth can sometimes hurt.
Romantic relationships can end abruptly over things we didn't even do. Your breakup may have occurred over things that were entirely your fault…or entirely your partner's fault. But honestly it does not matter as long as you are clear about what needs to be done. Often times it will require sacrifice and patience to fix your relationship. It may be tempting to avoid suggestions that draw you from your comfort zone, but recognize that good advice may not always pay off immediately.
Good relationship advice comes in many forms.
While most people associate “experts” as professionals, you might find that your friends or parents offer the most sensible solution to getting your ex back. Just don't feel obligated to follow all the advice you receive, but do get as many different opinions as possible. Being open to all suggestions will significantly improve your chances of finding that one “golden ticket” that brings your ex back.
There is a saying that advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer to the question. Now this is a funny saying but there really is a lot of truth to it! Quite often your good judgment and heart already know what to do, but hearing it come from people you respect helps to confirm the truth. It can be hard to listen when you have so much on your mind which is why closing your mouth is sometimes the best way to get your ex's attention. And don't look past the obvious…even you are capable of giving yourself good advice!