When you break up with the one you love it can consume your mind for some time. You can’t eat, can’t sleep and all you want is them back in your arms again. Breakups are so difficult to deal with and they are hard on everyone involved. But what most people don’t realize is that a break up doesn’t have to be for good. If you are willing to put some effort into the situation, you can turn the whole experience into a positive that will eventually improve your relationship. Here are some ideas for getting back the one you love.
Accept Change
The biggest mistake someone can make is failing to accept the fact that all relationships change over time. It’s easy to see why relationships change because the environment around us is also ever-changing. We grow, learn, develop, and experience both the highs and lows of life. These events shape us and our relationships over time. One of the first things to consider after a break up is if your partner has grown out of your relationship. Decide if you can live with these changes and think about what changes you will need to make to accommodate your partner's needs.
“For Better or For Worse.”
Today it seems like many couples don’t even listen to the marriage vows as the pastor reads them. But if you think about what “for better or worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer” really means you'll realize these are the pillars of a long term relationship. If you want your long-term relationship to thrive you need to adhere to these philosophies. You must stand by the one you love when they lose their job, get sick, or simply develop new hobbies and goals. Good times are always easier, but we know who really loves us when they stay with us through the tough times.
Express Your Feelings
Sometimes romantic relationships break up because the other person doesn’t feel loved or appreciated. If you didn’t express your affection to your partner they may think you don’t love them anymore, or worse…that you just don’t care. There are many ways to show your love, but begin by simply saying it out loud. Let them hear the words so that they feel your sincerity and emotion. You don’t have to use a lot of flowery language, just this one classic phrase is often enough to lift their spirits.
Always Be Improving Yourself
There are plenty of instances where a break up occurs because a person has had enough of their partner's behavior or habits. If you’re reading this and wondering if it applies to your relationship all you have to do is think back to your time together. Were they always asking you to change or fix something in your life? If you persistently ignored their requests then they may have finally given up on you. Even just working to improve the situation in a genuine way could be enough to bring the one you love back to you. Look honestly at the situation and come up with steps you can take each day to make things better. It will take a while to earn their trust, but taking action will speed up the process.
Getting back the one you love usually includes making changes and sacrifices. If you truly love your ex you will know what needs to be done. It is never too late to fix a break up, but the key is proving to your ex that things will be different the second time around.